“Every one of us is losing something precious to us. Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back. That’s part what it means to be alive. But inside our heads, there’s a room where we store those memories. And to understand the workings of our own heart we have to keep on making new reference cards. We have to dust things off every once in a while, let in fresh air, change the water in flower bases. In other words, you’ll live life in your own private library.”